Wrap With Love

Achtung: This post is very ibu-ibu themed.

I wanted to write something about a thing I loved when baby T was still small. I know it is way too late, seeing that T is not a baby anymore. In fact, he is now a toddler who loves to destroy everything!Indeed. A destroyer. A very cute one.

I was soooo determined to babywear T..it felt like home for me. my grandmoms and aunties carried us and their munchkins with slendang/jarik. So, I wanted to do the same, but with my own version. Long before I got pregnant I’d taken weaving workshops and then on got introduced to baby woven wraps. There are many beautiful wraps out there with different kind of blends and textures. I am a sucker for beautiful fabrics and textiles so I got curious about baby woven wraps that I did my research on it.

Firstly, I bought a tricot slen from Babylonia brand, click here. It was a stretchy wrap, very fool-proof, cool for the summer and ideal for a newborn. I was happy with my purchase and even took a short workshop for how to wrap your baby. He lived in that wrap from he was just wee 2 months old until he was 4 months old. He took his naps and when he was awake I took him with me grocery shopping in it. As T was 5 months old he got heavier, he weighed around 6-7 kg. The tricot slen I used  became somewhat uncomfortable, and it was not grippy enough for this squirmy T and my shoulders hurt so much if I wore him more than 30 minutes. Eventually, I switched to baby woven wraps. This time I purchased a second hand one off a group on Facebook. It was called “draagdoekenmarkt” (a closed group but you can ask to join). My new -not-so-new wrap was from Oscha (Edinburgh-based brand). It was from the range Orion Skara Brae sized 7 which meant 5,2 metres long, with mixed blends (made from: linen/hemp/cotton yarns). I love products from Oscha so much, so beautifully crafted and ethical too. That is why their products are pricey but still affordable. I chose this below, because the colors were stunning and looked very nice on T.

Woven wraps are best second hand. Why? If you buy a brand new wrap you will get a stiff and rigid piece of cloth even when it is 100% cotton. It needs to be broken in. How? By using it constantly. And that is why second hand woven wraps are much softer and some are even buttery soft and yet grippy.

I admit, after my Oscha I became addicted. I wanted another one with different blends with a darker colour that suited my complexion. A dear friend was selling her stash, and then I bought one from her. It was from Dydimos (linen and cotton blends, German brand) This one was very different from Oscha I had. Because the blends were mostly linen and cotton, and this one had been broken in too, it felt softer and more elastic/bouncier but still strong. The one from Oscha was thicker and not so bouncy, so it was perfect to “encapsulate” a wriggly baby.

I call my Oscha, my “baby prison” wrap he he he. I think it’s because of the hemp yarns that make it cushy yet strong.

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Dydimos indio

Then the third one, I wanted to practice with a shorter wrap so I could carry Tarou (then already 9 months old) on my hip. I bought size 4 Tulipa Aer, a beautiful 100% cotton wrap from a Dutch brand called Doeck, click for info!This one was a failure though. I couldn’t manage to do it right, and Tarou had grown into a very wriggly baby, so it made me nervous everytime I practiced because he would turn into a wriggly worm. And because it was 100% cotton it did not feel elastic or flexible enough for that weight. It must have been a perfect wrap for a smaller or less heavy baby. I now think I must sell that wrap though…such a waste…it is a very beautiful one. Anyone interested? I am selling this he he he.

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Tarou,  the wraps and I had good times together. I have carried him everywhere with baby wraps. He loved and still loves it when being carried (now) in baby carriers. When we were in Indonesia for example, I carried him on my back with an ergonomic baby carrier (I have the one from Beco, and I love it!). He is too heavy now to be carried with baby wraps/slings, so I occasionally carry him in a baby carrier. I still could though but only if I carried him on my back but he hated it if he could not see my face. He can walk now so it is way more interesting than to be carried, I think.

I love our wrap moments so much I become very quite religious about it, and I advocate a lot of my mama friends about it, but of course not all mamas like it. It is a choice. Most of mamas love to have another options like a baby bouncer or a cot to put the baby away when you need to do chores at home. But personally, I loved carrying T everywhere and so did he 🙂  It was really practical and I bonded with my baby even when I had to juggle with other bunch of things. Sometimes when I carried him outside I told him stories about the trees or when I did some chores inside of the house I pointed him the washing machine and how it worked (LOL, see..never a dull moment). There are many babywearer clubs in the world and regionally. In Amsterdam, we have Amsterdam babywearers and they have a Facebook page. There are also many swap groups around the world, Dutch-speaking pages are also available on Facebook! I for instance, always encourage new mamas to have a consultation with a Draag consulent near the place you live (a professional coach for babywearing and its techniques).

The Netherlands has many amazing woven wrap producers. There is this high-end brand called Artipoppe which has fantastic wraps, almost all of them are collectors items and the prices are..enough to buy holiday tickets 🙂 Kokoro is one that I really like because it has cute designs but oh so expensive. They usually make a partnership with other brands or independent weavers, sadly, I don’t know about the feel because I still do not have the chance to buy it. Then Doeck, and Yaro, the last one is an affordable brand but with a good quality. You can buy them online on many web-shops that sell ergonomic carriers or slings.

Thank you for reading!

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REAL LIFE

Semua cerita pasti ada endingnya…begitu juga cerita cuti gue. Yak, mulai senin gue bakal balik kerja lagi. Dua minggu lalu udah coba cek cek ombak, setengah hari kerja. Dedek di rumah sama papa nya yg kebetulan masuk siang, dan sebelum dia kerja nganter dedek buat di titip ke opa oma nya.

ENG ING ENG. Apa lah di kantor, otak gue korslet!! Tidur cuma 4 jam aja ga menolong, bangun udah dari jam 5 pagi dan harus kerja siangnya. Gak bisa ngomong satu kalimat utuh, bahasa Inggris dan Belanda super rusty, karena kebiasaan ngomong Bahasa Indonesia di rumah, karena gue kalo capek udah males aja ngomong Belanda sama J (ga bagus jangan dicontoh). Persoalan di kantor dimulai dari account gue yg kena clean up karena ga dipake selama 90 hari. Gue gak bisa MARAH karena, gue sendiri yang nerapin policy itu huahaha! (bersama pak bos tentunya). Senjata makan tuan. Trus keyboard gue raib, screen gue tiba2 kok beda, jadilah kemaren itu kerja setengah hari cuma diisi dengan nyari screen dan keyboard! BETE. Untungnya kolega cowok pada sigap, mereka takut disemprot kali ye sama ibu ibu hormonal kayak gue huahaha. Jadilah gue punya keyboard dan screen baru. Asek. Abis itu gue clean up emails yg jumlahnya beribu ribu…pffh. Itu padahal udah di filter, karena semua inquiries yg masuk langsung diterima sama replacement gue.

Setelah pulang kerja, melepas kangen, berderai aer mata sambil uyel uyel si kecil. Drama abis emaknya. Padahal sih bayi nya cuek aja…kesian deh gue. Seneng banget pulang kerja, liat anak ketawa tawa…seger banget. Setelah temu kangen, langsung nyusuin. Udah gitu bobok deh…Ga lama gue sibuk masak, sembari ngerapiin rumah…ngelipetin baju. Aslik, multitasking bo! 🙂 Jam 12 papa nya pulang dan gue akhirnya bisa tidur. Lagi lagi hanya 4 jam saja.

Besokannya gue tepar. SETEPAR TEPAR NYA. Ajegile, ini gimana kalo gue kerja beneran ya…hiks. Gue salut banget sama ibu ibu londo yang anaknya bererot trus kerja fulltime pulak, kok bisa sih GAK GILA? Pfhh, suami gue sih mencoba menenangkan gue yg udah kena anxiety attack belon belon beneran mulai ye, dasar nya aja gue tukang dramatisir. Kalo doi bakal atur jadwal kerja nya supaya sebisa mungkin klop sama jadwal kerja gue…Bersyukur banget gue punya mertua yg bisa gue titipin 2 hari seminggu, bersyukur kerja di perusahaan yang mementingkan keluarga sehingga gue bs dengan gampangnya nyusun jadwal kerja sesuai dengan jadwal libur suami. J kerjanya sekarang lumayan ada jadwalnya dan bukan cowo panggilan lagi. Kemaren2 doi kerja ada kali 50 jam seminggu dan semuanya emergency…emergency kok hobi sih?! Kalo gak teamwork kaya gini, mungkin gue udah jiper abis dan ambil cuti lagi deh hihihi.

Yak, my wishes adalah semoga senin depan lancar. Gue gak gagap banget sama suasana ngantor. Semuanya pasti beda, bos gue aja dah ganti, kerjaan gue juga ganti, apa itu ya gue juga belom tauk. Everything’s new. Setelah 8 bulan off from work, pastinya semua aneh ya kan? Nyelon aja lah.. Kalo ibu-ibu itu bisa, kenapa gue enggak? Ya kan. These past 8 months at home are the BEST time of my life, also the HAPPIEST time of my life. Bisa di rumah sama si kecil, jadi saksi milestones dia, bisa jalan2 sore diikuti dengan nontonin angsa di sungai dan mama beli caffe latte sebelum pulang …. Heel gezellig! I am glad I did it! Untungnya gue udah nerapin rutinitas jadi si kecil udah ada ritme nya (kecuali tidur malam nya masih aja suka bangun bangun nyari dummy nya…TOLONG!)

Semoga aja keinginan gue terkabul di masa depan, jadi Stay-at-home-mum lagi selama setahun. AMIN!!! 🙂