Wrap With Love

Achtung: This post is very ibu-ibu themed.

I wanted to write something about a thing I loved when baby T was still small. I know it is way too late, seeing that T is not a baby anymore. In fact, he is now a toddler who loves to destroy everything!Indeed. A destroyer. A very cute one.

I was soooo determined to babywear T..it felt like home for me. my grandmoms and aunties carried us and their munchkins with slendang/jarik. So, I wanted to do the same, but with my own version. Long before I got pregnant I’d taken weaving workshops and then on got introduced to baby woven wraps. There are many beautiful wraps out there with different kind of blends and textures. I am a sucker for beautiful fabrics and textiles so I got curious about baby woven wraps that I did my research on it.

Firstly, I bought a tricot slen from Babylonia brand, click here. It was a stretchy wrap, very fool-proof, cool for the summer and ideal for a newborn. I was happy with my purchase and even took a short workshop for how to wrap your baby. He lived in that wrap from he was just wee 2 months old until he was 4 months old. He took his naps and when he was awake I took him with me grocery shopping in it. As T was 5 months old he got heavier, he weighed around 6-7 kg. The tricot slen I used  became somewhat uncomfortable, and it was not grippy enough for this squirmy T and my shoulders hurt so much if I wore him more than 30 minutes. Eventually, I switched to baby woven wraps. This time I purchased a second hand one off a group on Facebook. It was called “draagdoekenmarkt” (a closed group but you can ask to join). My new -not-so-new wrap was from Oscha (Edinburgh-based brand). It was from the range Orion Skara Brae sized 7 which meant 5,2 metres long, with mixed blends (made from: linen/hemp/cotton yarns). I love products from Oscha so much, so beautifully crafted and ethical too. That is why their products are pricey but still affordable. I chose this below, because the colors were stunning and looked very nice on T.

Woven wraps are best second hand. Why? If you buy a brand new wrap you will get a stiff and rigid piece of cloth even when it is 100% cotton. It needs to be broken in. How? By using it constantly. And that is why second hand woven wraps are much softer and some are even buttery soft and yet grippy.

I admit, after my Oscha I became addicted. I wanted another one with different blends with a darker colour that suited my complexion. A dear friend was selling her stash, and then I bought one from her. It was from Dydimos (linen and cotton blends, German brand) This one was very different from Oscha I had. Because the blends were mostly linen and cotton, and this one had been broken in too, it felt softer and more elastic/bouncier but still strong. The one from Oscha was thicker and not so bouncy, so it was perfect to “encapsulate” a wriggly baby.

I call my Oscha, my “baby prison” wrap he he he. I think it’s because of the hemp yarns that make it cushy yet strong.

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Dydimos indio

Then the third one, I wanted to practice with a shorter wrap so I could carry Tarou (then already 9 months old) on my hip. I bought size 4 Tulipa Aer, a beautiful 100% cotton wrap from a Dutch brand called Doeck, click for info!This one was a failure though. I couldn’t manage to do it right, and Tarou had grown into a very wriggly baby, so it made me nervous everytime I practiced because he would turn into a wriggly worm. And because it was 100% cotton it did not feel elastic or flexible enough for that weight. It must have been a perfect wrap for a smaller or less heavy baby. I now think I must sell that wrap though…such a waste…it is a very beautiful one. Anyone interested? I am selling this he he he.

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Tarou,  the wraps and I had good times together. I have carried him everywhere with baby wraps. He loved and still loves it when being carried (now) in baby carriers. When we were in Indonesia for example, I carried him on my back with an ergonomic baby carrier (I have the one from Beco, and I love it!). He is too heavy now to be carried with baby wraps/slings, so I occasionally carry him in a baby carrier. I still could though but only if I carried him on my back but he hated it if he could not see my face. He can walk now so it is way more interesting than to be carried, I think.

I love our wrap moments so much I become very quite religious about it, and I advocate a lot of my mama friends about it, but of course not all mamas like it. It is a choice. Most of mamas love to have another options like a baby bouncer or a cot to put the baby away when you need to do chores at home. But personally, I loved carrying T everywhere and so did he 🙂  It was really practical and I bonded with my baby even when I had to juggle with other bunch of things. Sometimes when I carried him outside I told him stories about the trees or when I did some chores inside of the house I pointed him the washing machine and how it worked (LOL, see..never a dull moment). There are many babywearer clubs in the world and regionally. In Amsterdam, we have Amsterdam babywearers and they have a Facebook page. There are also many swap groups around the world, Dutch-speaking pages are also available on Facebook! I for instance, always encourage new mamas to have a consultation with a Draag consulent near the place you live (a professional coach for babywearing and its techniques).

The Netherlands has many amazing woven wrap producers. There is this high-end brand called Artipoppe which has fantastic wraps, almost all of them are collectors items and the prices are..enough to buy holiday tickets 🙂 Kokoro is one that I really like because it has cute designs but oh so expensive. They usually make a partnership with other brands or independent weavers, sadly, I don’t know about the feel because I still do not have the chance to buy it. Then Doeck, and Yaro, the last one is an affordable brand but with a good quality. You can buy them online on many web-shops that sell ergonomic carriers or slings.

Thank you for reading!

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Cuti Ngapain Aja

Gak terasa udah 5 bulan usia si kecil. Dan gak terasa selama kurang lebih 7,5 bulan gue jadi “pengangguran” 🙂 Lebih tepatnya 8 minggu sebelum melahirkan gue udah cuti. Rasanya gimana? ENAAKKK!! hahaha. Kadang bosen sih, tapi lebih karena gak ada temen ngobrol aja. Selebihnya gue enjoy banget di rumah sama Tarou! Di Belanda, sistem nya setiap ibu mendapatkan cuti hamil dan melahirkan selama 16 minggu. Ini dikit banget kalo dibandingkan sama negara Scandinavia lho…Gue personally berpendapat sistem ini jadul abis dan harus diperbaharui. Karena ninggalin bayi 3 bulan di daycare atau sama babysitter itu gak banget deh. Orok masih merah gitu kok mana tega ditarok di daycare?!

Jadi selama ini ngapain aja sih di rumah kok segitu betahnya? Hahaha. Jujur, 10 minggu setelah melahirkan gue masih dirundung oleh problem kesehatan. Entah itu pendarahan, sakit sakit di sekitar jahitan (gue Caesarian), kecapean kronis (karena semua dilakuin sendiri sedangkan jahitan masih aja bermasalah), dll. Intinya stamina gue ancur di titik nol banget deh. Kalo maksa jalan2 di hutan atau di sekitar rumah lebih dr 20 menit aja sampe rumah gue pendarahan lagi….stress! Tentang baby blues, gue heran deh kenapa orang2 berisik banget sama baby blues. Gue menganggap baby blues itu adalah hal yang sangat lumrah, normal. Ya iyalah, 9 bulan lamanya badan loe penuh memproduksi hormon, dan dalam sekejap elo ngeden trus punya bayi. Masih sakit sakit, masih teler, tapi udah harus ngurusin makhluk kecil nan lucu, yg idupnya tergantung banget sama elo. Jelas lah dunia loe serasa diobrak abrik! Fisik loe ga kuat tapi dikuat-kuatin jadinya ya kerjaannya mewek, emosian, dan gak pedean. Normal. Yang gak normal adalah tanggapan orang yang bilang, “ati ati baby blues yah, jangan stres stres” Seperti begadang, baby blues itu menurut gue inevitable. Yang harusnya orang2 pikirin adalah gimana caranya bikin ibu baru itu happy dan merasa dimengerti dengan cara yg positif. Jangan ditakut takutin. Sok atuh, curhat piiii? Hahaha.

Seharusnya gue masuk kerja lagi tuh per tanggal 1 desember. Cuma kok badan gue masih aja gak fit padahal udah diantisipasi dengan olahraga, istrahat emang gak cukup karena ya namanya punya bayi gitu loh begadang is a must :p Suami gue sebisanya juga ngebantu, dengan ngasi minum (pake botol dengan ASI yg gue pump sore sebelumnya), beres2 rumah, masak,grocery shopping buat gue. Tapi setelah 2 bulan lamanya dia juga musti konsen kerja. Kerjaannya di kamp pengungsi pun makin sibuk dan jam kerjanya pun gila…dari jam 3 sore hingga jam 12 malam, atau dari jam 11 malam sampai jam 7 pagi. Jadilah pinter pinternya kita bagi tugas. Setiap suami bangun tidur, gue gantian tidur, atau mandi dan istirahat. Setelah 3 bulan, baru deh kita nemu ritme yang pas buat kita berdua. Sekarang alhamdulillah, kita gak terlalu zombie banget walaupun si kecil tidurnya masih belum non-stop. Masih bangun jam 12 malam dan jam 5 pagi buat minum ASI.

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